Free to choose

18Aug09
Image from Paolo

Image from Paolo

Further to the post in Dotes: to want or not to want, we came across this post on Paolo’s blog.

By day, I was a women ’s studies minor, wrote a weekly feminist column for the student newspaper, and was president of the National Organization of Women on campus. By night, I really, really, really just wanted to be spanked.

In the years to come, I got some playful spankings, during which I was always twisting, giggling, and trying to get out of it. My first serious boyfriend loved to smack me on the ass as a joke, as did my second serious boyfriend. The more I protested, laughingly telling them to stop, the more they did it. And getting playful spanks always, always led to making out. I look back now and see that both guys realized I loved getting spanked long before I did.

You could say I was in denial about my spanking fetish. It wasn’t that I thought slapping booty was abuse, nor was my starched WASP upbringing to blame. No, the problem was my feminist sensibilities. I realize now that the term “feminism” is vague and means different things for different people, but when I was younger, I assumed there was a way a feminist should think and act. So, even though I liked the feeling of getting spanked, I felt conflicted about giving up my physical power, thinking spanking wasn’t something an independent and opinionated woman should enjoy.

 Just how, I fretted, could a partner take me seriously as a thinker, a doer, and a creator when I wanted to be submissive to him? What if people think I’m weird or screwed up?

The full post can be read here.



3 Responses to “Free to choose”

  1. 1 Tony

    I think aldult Spanking should always be a part of life.sometimes I wish I knew some older women that would love to spank my bare bottom over her knee. But I am not that lucky,

  2. 2 Johnxc

    Maybe this will help feminist women who enjoy being spanked by men: if the man is doing it at your request, express or implied, he is really serving you.


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